Have you ever stepped back and reflected on how the way we use our language has impacted our conversation. And as you start reflecting, you would realize that language is the basis of our social interaction and it allows us to interact with each other. It makes our internal world visible, audible and tangible to others. It allows us to share a world of experience and to communicate abstract ideas, to understand and be understood
Take an instance that four of you friends have gone for a movies. After watching the movie, you start asking for a feedback. You will realize they aree saying “What a boring movies”, “It was excting, though it dragged a bit towards the end” “I loved the action scene. They really copied it from an english movie” and you are saying “Just a normal movie. Waste of money and could have given ita miss”. Just imagine all the four of you went to the same movie, experienced the movie in the same way, saw all the scenes togather, yet everyone perceived it and stated it in their very own way. And you would begin to realize that Language is not real in the same way as the experience is real
There are times we confuse words with the experience and this leads to misunderstanding
a. When we begin to believe what we have said is what we have experienced, we become convinced of our perspective. Hwever, this is not the case. But this will lead to misunderstanding between us
b. We may mistakeny assume that others share our assumptions and we leave out vital parts of our messages. This will confuse people even though we may not mean to
c. We misunderstand others as we begin to draw our own conclusions which may or may not be true
So what language has done is that it has deleted a part of our experience. This could be as we may not have the vocabulary and speed to express our experience. It also generalizes the experience. This may be due to similar events experienced in the recent past.. It also distorts the experience where in they give undue weightage to some part of experienc over the others. Hence language becomes critical and the way we use our language impacts our conversation
To make our conversation impactful, it is imperative that we know as to how the language impacts our conversation. We need to realize and take care that what we communicate to others is not exactly what we have experienced. Similarly, what others are saying and sharing are not exactly what they are sharing. We need to discover what is the experience that they have deleted in their conversation, what are the things they have generalized and what have they distorted as they shared in their conversation. Getting a deeper understanding will help bring clarity in undertanding the other person and creating and impact.